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 Use It or Lose it Theory Update

 

Erectile dysfunction after surgery to remove theXLPharmacy discusses Erectile Dysfunctionprostate (radical prostatectomy) has traditionally been attributed to nerve damage that theoretically should heal over time. But it can take as long as two years for the nerves to recover enough for a man to have an erection without the aid of drugs or devices.

The Harvard Medical School bulletin notes that when the penis is flaccid for long periods of time, it is deprived of a lot of oxygen-rich blood. Recent research suggests that this low oxygen level causes some muscle cells in the penis’s erectile tissue to lose their flexibility. The tissue gradually becomes more like scar tissue, interfering with the penis’s ability to expand when it’s filled with blood.

Therefore, the traditional advice given to men—to wait for erectile function to return on its own—may not be adequate. Simply put, erections seem to work on a use-it-or-lose-it basis. To prevent the secondary damage that may occur if the penis goes too long without erections, researchers now think it’s better to restore erectile function soon after prostate removal. Treatment options include using a vacuum pump device or taking erectile dysfunction drugs by mouth or by injection into the penis.

According to Dr. Marc Garnick, editor in chief of Perspectives on Prostate Disease and a Harvard oncologist, “Although the evidence supporting this ‘penile rehabilitation’ isn’t perfect, you may want to ask your doctor about the options. Such early intervention may help increase the odds that you will regain erectile function.”

 

ScienceDaily. Retrieved August 29, 2010, from http://www.sciencedaily.com­ /releases/2007/08/070811222739.htm
 

 10 Tips To Improve Memory

 

What’s the name of your daughter’s teacher, and where did you put your keys again? If you’ve ever wished you could do some simple things to sharpen your memory skills, you can. We’ve talked to the experts and compiled the latest thinking on improving the muscles in your brain associated with memory.

1. Talk with your hands.
It may sound strange, but waving your hands and gesturing while trying to learn a concept may help your brain remember something important, says Jeff Brown, PsyD, ABPP, coauthor of The Winner’s Brain. "Gesturing in a meaningful way while you are learning may help you when recalling the concept,” he says.''

 

 talk with your hands, listen with your eyes

 

“The idea is that you are storing at least two different types of information about something you'll need to recall later. A good example of this is when kids speak math problems aloud, but also 'work them' in the air.” Tactics to try: When you’ve just learned someone’s name, “write” it down on the palm of your hand with your finger. The act of tracing the letters on your palm (discreetly, of course) can help your brain remember it, says Dr. Brown. Or, “Air-write on an imaginary map of your grocery store or mall as you name aloud the items or stores you need to remember when shopping.”

2. Take a chill pill.
Learning to calm down and not carry as much stress can help your brain in significant ways, says Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD, PT, a psychologist and physical therapist in Wexford, Pennsylvania, and the author of A Happy You: Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness. “The best tip to improve your memory is: Reduce your stress,” says Dr. Lombardo. “Research shows that when people experience chronic stress, their hippocampus—the part of your brain that is responsible for some memories—literally shrinks in size.”

 

take a chill pill

 

In fact, a 2007 study in the journal Neurology by researchers at Rush University Medical School found that people who are easily distressed and had more negative emotions were more likely to develop memory problems than more easygoing people. How to reduce your stress? Consider delegating more tasks at work, clearing your social calendar for the weekend (there’s nothing wrong with having nothing on the calendar!) and purging negative relationships from your life.

3. Get plenty of zzz’s.
You’ve heard the concept of “sleeping on it” when you’re faced with a problem or difficult decision, right? Well, getting a good night’s sleep can help you improve your memory, too. "Sleep is critical for memory consolidation,” says Dr. Brown.

 

get proper rest and sleep

 

“Getting at least six hours of uninterrupted sleep following exposure to new information can help in the recall of that information.” But there’s an important side note: “The trick is going directly to bed without inserting any new information or activity between what you want to recall and going to sleep—no reading, no TV, no sex, no music."

4. Eat more fruits and veggies.
Eating your spinach—and carrots and peas—is not only good for your body, it’s good for your memory, too. A recent Harvard study found that people who ate more vegetables had a slower decline of brain function as they aged. “Other studies, such as one published in Pharmacology, have shown that essential brain-boosting nutrients found in certain produce, such as quercetin and anthocyanin, may reverse memory loss,” says Tosca Reno, a health and fitness expert and author of the bestselling book The Eat-Clean Diet.

 

eat lots of fruits and veggies

 

You can find these compounds in cruciferous vegetables, such as Brussels sprouts, broccoli and cabbage, as well as in leafy greens, including kale, spinach and Swiss chard. Also load up on brightly colored produce such as berries, red apples, eggplant and grapes—their bright hue is an indication of their brain-boosting antioxidants.

5. Join a book club.
Not only is reading great for your brain, but discussing what you’ve read can improve your memory by leaps and bounds, says Sandra Bond Chapman, PhD. In fact, a book club with your closest girlfriends may help strengthen your brain’s frontal lobe function. “The frontal lobe is the last region of the brain to develop, but the first to decline with age,” explains Dr. Chapman.

 

read - join a book club

 

“To strengthen function of the frontal lobe, engage in deeper-level thinking activities such as interpreting what you read in a book, discussing the ‘larger messages’ in the book and pushing to see how many meanings you can derive from it.”

6. Go to yoga class.
What can a downward-facing-dog pose do for your memory? A lot, says Gina Norman, a yoga teacher in New York City. “A new study out of the University of North Carolina shows that brief meditative exercise helps cognition and skills essential to critical thinking,” she says. But if you’re not into yoga, exercise of any kind works to boost your brain, says Dr. Lombardo. “Research shows that exercise increases the blood flow to all areas of your body, including the brain and specifically areas involved in memory,” she says.

 

yoga for the mind body and spirit

 

“One study found that mice who exercised grew new brain cells in the dentate gyrus, a part of the hippocampus which can be affected by declines in memory as we get older.” Short on time? “Try running up a flight of stairs, jogging to a bathroom that is farther away from you, doing 50 jumping jacks, putting on a great song and dancing around, or grabbing your child’s hand and jumping on the bed together.”

7. Sniff some rosemary.
Parsley and sage are great, as is thyme, but when it comes to improving memory, rosemary is king. In a recent study, UK researchers looked at scents and how they boosted or detracted from mental performance. They found that office workers whose cubicles were infused with the scent of rosemary had better long-term memory than those in unscented cubes.

 

stop and smell the rosemary

 

 “There are other essential oils that can help with memory, but rosemary is by far the best and most economical,” says Cher Core, an aromatherapist in Boston. “Diffuse rosemary essential oil in the air, wear it in a perfume, use it in mists and more. It is a good choice for those studying and folks who need help with memory, focus and concentration.”

8. Pay attention.
Duh, right? It may sound obvious, but according to experts, when most people think they’re having memory problems, it’s really because they were distracted or didn’t record the information in their brain properly to begin with, says Linda Edelstein, PhD, adjunct faculty at Northwestern University and the author of The Art of Midlife. “When people cannot retrieve information it is often because they haven't taken it in in the first place,” she says.

 

pay attention

 

“You cannot recall information that you did not store.” The number-one trick to paying closer attention? Stop multitasking and be fully present. That means setting down the BlackBerry while lunching with your friend, turning off the TV when you’re trying to read something and not letting your eyes—or mind—wander when chatting with someone at a party. You’ll be more likely to remember the person’s name.

9. Learn a new song.
Have you ever found yourself singing along to a song you love that debuted 10 years ago, and yet you still don’t know the lyrics? Learning the words could be fun, but it could also be good for your memory in general. By memorizing a song, “you will be working out at least two different kinds of memory, auditory and verbal, which is probably something you don't do very often,” says Cynthia Green, PhD, an expert on brain health and memory.

 

learn a new song

 

“The research suggests that constantly challenging our brains with intellectual pursuits may boost our ‘cognitive reserve’ and can have the associated benefit of reducing our dementia risk over the long-term.”

10. Go ahead and doodle.
When’s the last time you grabbed a pencil and paper and let your mind go—drawing hearts and rainbows, or whatever scene or object popped into your head? Surprisingly, says Dr. Green, a free-flowing pen could be the key to strengthening your brain’s memory centers.

 

doodle its good for the mind

 

“Doodling has been found in studies to boost concentration, which is an essential first step to learning and memory,” says Dr. Green. “After all, if you can't focus on information, you don't acquire it effectively, and you can never remember something you don't learn in the first place!”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This Months Top Stories

AIDS / HIV Updates (Drug Resistance)

Dissecting the TRIM5a Protein

5 Myths About Women at 4RX Blog and Online Monthly Newsletter

5 Myths About Women

The Reality of Married Love-Making - NEW!

The Reality of Married Lovemaking

This Months Story

The Reality of Married Lovemaking

 In this Issue...

 

Introduction

   Why 4RX Blog and News

• Featured Articles of the Month (AIDS)

   HIV Resistance Testing

   Who Should Get Resistance Testing

   How Can I Avoid Resistance

   Eradicating AIDS from CD4 Memory Cells

    Dissecting the TRIM5a Protein

   The Reality of Married Lovemaking

 

Current Month Stories

   5 Myths About Women

   5 Drinks to Calm You Down - New!

   10 Cancer Fighting Facts and Fiction

    10 Tips To Improve Your Memory

   How to Living Longer

   When Should I Consider Antidepressants?

    ED - Update on Use It or Lose It Theory

  

Health Links, Files & Videos

   Herpes Support and Videos

   Erectile Dysfunction Videos

   Erectile Dysfunction Info

   AIDS Information Video

   The 14th Annual HIV Drug Guide

   HIV Drug Resistance Booklets

   HIV Patient Information Booklets   

 

Healthy Recipe of the Month

   Baked Salmon w/Asian Marinade

 

Monthly Newsletter Archives

 

Feedback from visitors

 

 

Introduction

Welcome to the newly redesigned 4RX Health Blog.  In each issue 4RX Health Blog provides a wealth of up-to-date medical news we hope you find helpful and informational. At XLPharmacy we care about you and your family and we believe that everyone should have fast and reliable access to affordable high quality medications in order to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Staying in touch with the latest in health news is only part of what we do.   4RX Health Blog will discuss everything from Medicare to Social Security, Cancer to New Cancer tests, Erectile Dysfunction and Medications like Viagra with Sexual Health, Smoking to Mental Health and so much more...

HIV Resistance Testing - Latest on HIV and AIDS

 

Resistance Testing: Finely Targeting Your Drugs

HIV resistance testing has become the standard of care for HIV-positive people. It is recommended in all U.S. and international HIV treatment guidelines for both adults and children. What is the goal of resistance testing? To determine how much of your HIV has mutated and whether these mutations affect the activity of one or more of your HIV medications. Resistance testing is done by studying a sample of your blood using specialized lab equipment.

You and your doctor can use the results of these tests to select the HIV medications most likely to be effective against your virus. Keep in mind that resistance testing may not detect all mutated HIV. Researchers are also still working to identify all the different HIV mutations that cause resistance to HIV medications. Nevertheless, resistance tests are an essential part of HIV treatment.

 

XLPharmacy discusses HIV Resistance Testing

Using a resistance test, your doctor can take a closer look

at the HIV in your body to see whether it's developed mutations

that will make it resistant to one or more HIV meds.

 

Who Should Get a Resistance Test

 

Who Should Get a Resistance Test

In people who are infected with drug-resistant HIV, the majority of the HIV in their bodies will be mutated. One or more of these mutations will prevent HIV meds from working as well as they should.
XLPharmacy Drug Resistance Related
How is it possible to be resistant to HIV medications before you've even taken them? Unfortunately, it's easier than you might think. In the United States, an average of 7% to 19% of newly infected people have mutations that are associated with drug resistance to at least one drug -- and, in some cases, to a whole class of medications.

How does this happen? The person you got HIV from may have been on HIV treatment, and his or her virus became resistant to one or more medications. Transmitted along with HIV was their resistance to certain drugs. If you were infected within the last several years, taking a resistance test before beginning HIV treatment will reveal whether you have HIV that is resistant to any HIV medications.

However, if you were infected more than a few years ago, or if you are not sure when you were infected, current resistance tests may not be able to provide a completely accurate result. This is because, after a few years, without HIV treatment, wild-type HIV will reproduce more than the drug-resistant virus you were originally infected with, and that wild-type HIV will once again become the most common type of HIV in your body.

Currently available resistance tests are not sensitive enough to detect mutations when they are present in small numbers in your body; they are most likely still there, but in low numbers.

So, for example, if you got HIV from a person who had resistance to Sustiva (this drug is one of the three drugs in Atripla), and a few years went by before you started taking HIV medications, a resistance test may not note that you have any mutations to Sustiva. But if you then start to take Sustiva, the Sustiva-resistant virus in your body will once again thrive.

While these tests may not detect resistance in people who were infected several years ago, it's still best to get one as soon as possible after you're diagnosed. If the test does find resistance, this information will be extremely helpful when it comes time to choose your first treatment regimen.

People Whose Viral Load Rises While on Treatment
If you're currently receiving HIV treatment and your viral load rises sharply, this could indicate that you're experiencing what your doctor might call "treatment failure." Although it sounds worse than it actually is, it could mean that your HIV has grown resistant to one or more of the medications you're taking.

However, a rising viral load can signify other things as well. Your body could be reacting to a recent vaccination or an infection. Or, a new HIV drug you just started taking could be interacting with other drugs you're taking, making your treatment less powerful.

Once your doctor rules out all these other possibilities, and before you stop or change treatment, it's critical to immediately get a resistance test. This way you can learn which drug is failing to keep your HIV under control and switch medications if necessary.

Quick timing is essential because once you stop or change medications, your drug-resistant HIV may become harder to detect, since many mutations thrive only when you're taking the medication they're resistant to. When not taking medications, wild-type HIV will become the most numerous type of HIV in your body and mutated HIV will be more difficult to measure.

People Who Need to Change Medications Due to Side Effects
Let's say you've been on HIV medications and, due to side effects, you need to change one or more drugs. If your viral load is above 1,000 copies, you should get a resistance test. Once again, make sure you get the test before you stop or change treatment. The test may help you be sure that a new medication will work at its full power.

If you have a viral load below 1,000 at the time you decide to switch medications, though, a resistance test might not be ordered because even though drug resistance mutations may be present, they are more difficult to reliably find when someone's viral load drops below 1,000.

Pregnant Women
To avoid passing HIV to their babies, it's best for pregnant women with HIV to make sure they have an undetectable viral load. If you're pregnant and getting HIV treatment but you have a detectable viral load, resistance testing may help figure out which drugs aren't working and which will have the best chance of preventing your baby from getting HIV.

 

How Can You Avoid Resistance?

How Can You Avoid Resistance?

As you can see, resistance is not easy to deal with. The best approach is to make an effort to avoid it. Fighting the HIV in your body requires a total commitment to taking your medications exactly as they are prescribed. If you give it room to grow, HIV will eventually become resistant to every single HIV medication. Your job is to make sure HIV never gets that opportunity. What can you do?

Don't skip doses. Missing only a few doses a month could cause resistance to occur.

Don't let yourself run out of medications. Fill all the prescriptions your doctor gives you ASAP.

Try to
take your medications at the times recommended by your doctor. For example, if you're told to take a medication twice a day, that means you should take your doses about 12 hours apart.

Pay close attention to food requirements: If you're asked to take a medication with a meal, make sure you always do so, or it might not work as well.

Don't have unprotected sex with other HIV-positive people -- it could expose you to another strain of HIV that is resistant to one or more of your medications (this is called "superinfection").

If you are getting medical care from other physicians in addition to your HIV doctor, and you are prescribed medications for other reasons, make sure that you tell them which HIV medications you are taking. Be sure to also tell them about any other medications, vitamins or natural supplements you are taking. Even garlic supplements can potentially change the effectiveness of your HIV medications, so the more your HIV doctor knows about everything you are taking, the better.

Keep in mind that no HIV medication or combination of medications is capable of shutting down HIV reproduction completely. The best medications can do is dramatically slow it down. Taking your medication exactly as directed keeps a consistently high level of the medication in your bloodstream and throughout your body. While these powerful drugs are in your body, HIV will have a very difficult time reproducing, and mutations will be much less likely to occur.

Recent Developments in Eradicating the AIDS Virus from CD4 Memory Cells

Recent Developments in the Fight Against AIDS

One of the most persistent myths about the HIV epidemic is that the government (or the other perceived villain-pharmaceutical companies) have discovered a cure but that, for whatever reasons, have not made it available. This reasoning fails to take into account the complexity of vaccine development in general, not to mention the unique challenge of curing HIV. One of the crucial steps to finding a cure involves eradicating all of the virus from the body. Complicating this are stubborn reservoirs of HIV that remain in the body and seem out of reach of antiretroviral medication. These reservoirs consist of old CD4 cells that preserve latent HIV throughout the body, essentially storing, or 'archiving' it for decades. Therefore, even though antiretroviral medication may significantly reduce viral reproduction and clear the host of most HIV virus, they never completely purge HIV from the body. When the medication is interrupted or ceases its effectiveness, because of viral resistance, this reservoir can become reactivated, ensuring more viral replication and eventually, more illness. Therefore, the inability to eradicate HIV from the body has been the main stumbling block towards finding a cure. XLPHARMACY BLOG - Eradicating AIDS from CD4 Memory Cells

However, recent developments by Dr. Robert Siliciano of Johns Hopkins University has brought new hope that HIV eradication may be achievable. Dr. Siliciano believe that there are two reservoirs of old (or latent) HIV, one that consists of what are called CD4 memory cells. These cells are created to combat various infections that we have developed, such as measles. HIV meds are only effective against cells infected with HIV that are active. However, activating all memory cells simultaneously can be dangerous. Therefore, the goal is to activate only those cells that are infected with HIV, so that the HIV meds can, in effect, take them out. Dr. Siliciano and group have found a handful of compounds that they believe may selectively activate HIV infected cells. The trick will be finding compounds that will be safe in humans.

Sound complicated? Well this is just a small glimpse of the work being done all over the world to either create a vaccine for HIV, or to find a cure. However, as this brief snapshot demonstrates, it is a very difficult, frustrating and costly endeavor. Therefore, we should be more appreciative of the efforts of researchers such as Dr. Siliciano and his colleagues or Michael Swanson, a doctoral student at the University of Michigan and his group who have discovered a lectin (naturally occurring chemicals in plants that bind to sugars on the surface of disease-causing microorganisms such as viruses) found in bananas, that might lead to the development of inexpensive microbicides to prevent HIV transmission or even new treatments.

Recent Developments in Eradicating HIV - Dissecting the TRIM5a Protein - AIDS update

Using a $225,000 microscope, researchers have identified the key components of a protein called TRIM5a that destroys HIV in rhesus monkeys.
TRIM5a protein HIV and AIDS article at XLPharmacy Blog
The finding could lead to new TRIM5a-based treatments that would knock out HIV in humans, said senior researcher Edward M. Campbell, PhD, of Loyola University Health System.

Campbell and colleagues report their findings in an article featured on the cover of the Sept. 15, 2010 issue of the journal Virology, now available online.

In 2004, other researchers reported that TRIM5a protects rhesus monkeys from HIV. The TRIM5a protein first latches on to a HIV virus, then other TRIM5a proteins gang up and destroy the virus.

Humans also have TRIM5a, but while the human version of TRIM5a protects against some viruses, it does not protect against HIV.

Researchers hope to turn TRIM5a into an effective therapeutic agent. But first they need to identify the components in TRIM5a that enable the protein to destroy viruses. "Scientists have been trying to develop antiviral therapies for only about 75 years," Campbell said. "Evolution has been playing this game for millions of years, and it has identified a point of intervention that we still know very little about."

TRIM5a consists of nearly 500 amino acid subunits. Loyola researchers have identified six 6 individual amino acids, located in a previously little-studied region of the TRIM5a protein, that are critical in the ability of the protein to inhibit viral infection. When these amino acids were altered in human cells, TRIM5a lost its ability to block HIV-1 infection. (The research was done on cell cultures; no rhesus monkeys were used in the study.)

By continuing to narrow their search, researchers hope to identify an amino acid, or combination of amino acids, that enable TRIM5a to destroy HIV. Once these critical amino acids are identified, it might be possible to genetically engineer TRIM5a to make it more effective in humans. Moreover, a better understanding of the underlying mechanism of action might enable the development of drugs that mimic TRIM5a action, Campbell said.

In their research, scientists used Loyola's wide-field "deconvolution" microscope to observe how the amino acids they identified altered the behavior of TRIM5a. They attached fluorescent proteins to TRIM5a to, in effect, make it glow. In current studies, researchers are fluorescently labeling individual HIV viruses and measuring the microscopic interactions between HIV and TRIM5a.

"The motto of our lab is one of Yogi Berra's sayings -- 'You can see a lot just by looking,'" Campbell said.

Campbell is an assistant professor in the Department of Microbiology and Immunology at Loyola University Chicago Stritch School of Medicine. His co-authors are Jaya Sastri, a Stritch graduate student and first author; Christopher O'Connor, a former post-doctorate researcher at Stritch; Cindy Danielson and Michael McRaven of Northwestrn University Feinberg School of Medicine and Patricio Perez and Felipe Diaz-Griffero of Albert Einstein College of Medicine.

The study was supported by a grant from the National Institutes of Health.
ScienceDaily (Aug. 25, 2010)

5 Myths About Women

 

Historically research has focused on men. As one example, women are under-represented in major clinical trials for cancers that affect both sexes, a new study found. Researchers say several factors could be responsible, from childcare issues to reluctance by researchers to expose women of childbearing age to trial drugs and treatments.

In other areas where research into women's medical problems is lacking, the issue is not just about sexism. Women's hormone fluctuations are, well, complicated and can confound basic findings. But in recent years, women have been getting increased attention.

Still, much misinformation about the female body circulates in mainstream consciousness.

55 Myths About Women at XLPharmacy Blog and Online Monthly Newsletter
Myth: A women can't get pregnant during her period.
While a woman is unlikely to conceive during menstruation, "nothing, when it comes to pregnancy, is impossible," said Aaron Carroll of Indiana University and co-author of "Don't Swallow Your Gum: Myths, Half-truths and Outright Lies About Your Body and Health" (St. Martin's Griffin, 2009).

Once inside a woman, sperm can wait for an egg for up to a week. Ovulation can occur soon after, or even during, the bleeding phase of a woman's menstrual cycle, giving patient sperm the chance to get lucky. The timing method of birth control doesn't work well, Carroll said, agreeing that couples who practice it are often called: parents.

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Myth: Menopause causes sex drive to nosedive.
The Change is not necessarily one that happens in the bedroom. A comprehensive survey of sexual habits in the United States, completed by Edward Laumann and colleagues in 1994, found that roughly half of women in their fifties have sex several times a month.

While hot flashes and other discomforts may make a women temporarily not in the mood, there is not a direct link between menopause and sexual desire, Vreeman said. So if you are entering the Big M, there is no reason to say good-bye to the Big O.

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Myth: Antibiotics make birth control pills unreliable.
"Many physicians even believe this," Carroll said. Alone, birth control pills fail about one percent of the time. And that failure rate is unchanged when taken with the vast majority of antibiotics, Carroll said.

A possible exception is rifampin, the antibiotic prescribed for tuberculosis. Rifampin does lower pregnancy-protecting hormone levels induced by birth control pills, but whether the effect is large enough to increase pregnancy risk is unclear. Carroll thinks rifampin research spurred the antibiotic/birth control rumor. "Sometimes people say things and they just take off," he said.

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Myth: Women and men need equal sleep.
Tossing and turning not only causes women more psychological distress, it also raises their insulin and inflammation levels -- risk factors for compromised health, found a 2008 study of 210 people led by Edward Suarez at Duke University.

A study of more than 6,000 participants, led by researchers at the University of Warwick in 2007, found that women who slept five or less hours a night were twice as likely to suffer from hypertension than women who slept for seven or more hours. Among men, there was no such relationship. Sleeping Beauty may be better off waking up on her own watch.

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Myth: A doctor can tell if a woman is a virgin.
Even when using 10-fold magnification, doctors can not accurately sort virgins from the sexually-active, several studies have reported. It is not as simple as looking for a hole in the hymen because, well, there is always a hole in the hymen.

"Some people think the hymen seals off the vagina [until virginity is lost], but that is just not true," said Dr. Rachel Vreeman of Indiana University and Carroll's co-author of "Don't Swallow Your Gum." In the rare cases when it is sealed, period blood builds in the uterus and causes severe medical problems, she said.

 

10 Cancer-Fighting Foods: Facts and Fiction

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BerriesXLPharmacy discusses 10 Cancer Fighting Foods - Berries

Let's start with something that at least most people agree tastes good. Just about any food with word "berry" in it is extremely healthy, with the primary exception being Cap'n Crunch's Crunch Berries. Most berries contain ellagic acid and other polyphenol antioxidants that inhibit tumor growth. Don't get too caught up in one kind of berry and the "best" polyphenol with a name you can't pronounce. Focus on a variety of seasonal berries and add them to plain, no-fat yogurt.

9XLPharmacy discusses 10 Cancer Fighting Foods - Chocolate
Chocolate

Chocolate has endured countless studies by scientists determined to prove this can't possibly be healthy. But it is healthy, provided the cocoa-to-candy ratio remains high. Reach for a dark chocolate bar with at least 70-percent cocoa (often spelled cacao), preferably more. The closer to its bitter bean state, the better. One again we see those antioxidants and therapeutic polyphenols at work. In particular there is a class of chemicals in cocoa called catechins, also found in tea, that seem to offer protection against heart disease, stroke and cancer, according to studies of South Americans who consume the cocoa bean generously.

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Ginger and turmeric

Ginger and turmeric are about as close as you can get to good-tasting medicine. Ginger has
XLPharmacy discusses 10 Cancer Fighting Foods - Ginger powerful anti-inflammatory properties and can slow cancer growth. Turmeric, the spice that forms the base of most curries, is from a root in the ginger family. The active ingredient is curcumin, which can kill cancer cells quickly, albeit in a test tube. Ginger and turmeric enhance the flavor of most any meal and come with a long list of healthful benefits. Yes, you can get both ginger and turmeric/curcurmin in a pill form. But pill supplements are usually dumb American ideas. Add these to your spice rack, not medicine cabinet.

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Beans and lentils

Add the aforementioned ginger or turmeric or both, and you'reXLPharmacy discusses 10 Cancer Fighting Foods - Beans and lentils in for some good, healthy eating. Beans and lentils contain numerous phytochemicals, far too cumbersome to read in one sitting, that have been shown in the laboratory to slow or prevent damage to the DNA, the basis of cancer. The added benefit comes with the fiber, associated with lower risk of digestive cancers such as colon cancer. The tricky part, for many Americans, is learning how to cook these properly. Make friends with someone from India who can cook, and you'll be amazed how you can get through much of your week without beef or pork.

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Green teaXLPharmacy discusses 10 Cancer Fighting Foods - Green Tea

Start drinking up to a half-gallon of green tea a day, cold or hot, caffeine be damned. (Tea only has a third of the caffeine found in most coffee.) Green tea has epigallocatechin gallate (EGCG) and catechins, as tough on cancer cells as they are on the tongue to pronounce. EGCG retards cancer growth; and stomach and lung cancer rates in Japan would likely be even higher considering all the cancer-promoting salty food and tobacco there.

Note that in the United States it is extremely difficult to get real green tea. What you are buying is green tea drink (sugar, water, and someone whispering the words "green tea" over the bottle) or green tea mix (a blend of teas to ease that natural bitterness of green tea). The most potent green tea comes from Japan; and Asian supermarkets carry many varieties, with the best brands being in boxes with letters you can't read. Note also that black teas lose healthy catechins in the fermentation process; and decaffeinated teas lose catechins in the washing process.

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Vitamin D
XLPharmacy discusses 10 Cancer Fighting Foods - Vitamin D
Vitamin D isn't a food per se; it is a proto-hormone that seems to interfere with cancer growth. Many studies on humans have shown vitamin D is instrumental in reducing the risk of colon and breast cancer and improving the survival rates of lung cancer. The precise mechanism is not known, but most researchers in recent years have become increasingly convinced that few of us get enough vitamin D through sunlight or diet. There are few vegetarian sources other than eggs and UV-irradiated mushrooms. Your best bet comes from the waterways: catfish, salmon, sardines, or mackerel.

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Folate

Folate, and the related folic acid or vitamin B9, is part of theXLPharmacy discusses 10 Cancer Fighting Foods - Folate vitamin B-complex family, which as a whole has cancer-preventive properties. The cancer-folate relationship is complex. People with diets low in folate seem to have higher rates of cancer. Diets high in folate don't necessarily prevent cancer, but they don't seem to hurt. The lack of folate might enable cancer to get the upper hand, allowing mutations to occur unchecked. Leafy green vegetables, beans, peas and lentils are all generally high in folate.

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Cruciferous vegetables

Cruciferous vegetables are those in the mustard or cabbage family, and the list is exhaustive. Unfortunately, most U.S.
XLPharmacy discusses 10 Cancer Fighting Foods - Brocolli markets only carry a few: cabbage, broccoli, kale and collards. Step into a good Asian market for an entire aisle of offerings. These vegetables, in varying degrees, are rich in anti-cancer properties such as diindolylmethane, sulforaphane and the element selenium. The punch comes with the crunch: Chewing, more so than subsequent digestion, releases these chemicals. Thus, it is important not to overcook these greens. Even tough collards, if fresh, can be chopped thin and pan-fried in a few minutes, as opposed to the traditional southern methods of boiling the hell out of these.

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Dark green vegetablesXLPharmacy discusses 10 Cancer Fighting Foods - Dark Green Vegetables like Kale

This category of vegetables overlaps the cruciferous family and includes chard, spinach and beets (by virtue of the leaves, but the red root is healthy, too). These vegetables contain, among other goodies, beta-carotene, lutein and zeaxanthin -- each of which are powerful antioxidants that can block early cancer development. They are also high in folate. Best yet, Swiss chard in particular is extremely easy to grow in pots. It's the plant that keeps giving: You can clip off leaves for months upon months as new ones keep shooting up. Fresher greens are more tender and tastier.

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WineXLPharmacy discusses 10 Cancer Fighting Foods - Red Wine

Wine -- and, in particular, red wine with its high concentration of the chemical resveratrol from the
grape skin -- is anti-cancer and pro-heart, at least in moderation. Alcohol can be toxic and is associated with liver, breast and stomach cancers. Somewhere there is a balance, though, with resveratrol contributing in some unknown way to suppress metabolites associated with cancer growth. More and more researchers have become comfortable in recent years in recommending a glass of wine a day to prevent cancer and promote a healthier circulatory system. If the concept of wine seems too radical to include on a list of anti-cancer foods, consider having that wine with an Italian pasta meal with tomato sauce (high in lycopene, somewhat associated with cancer prevention), sardines and a dark leafy green salad (high on the anti-cancer food list).

This top-10 list goes to 11. Try mixing most of the items mentioned in this anti-cancer food list into a smoothie with non-fat yogurt or silken tofu. You'll be amazed the amount of healthy junk you can cram into a smoothie -- flaxseed, wheat germ, and even bitter vegetables -- and still come up with something tasty as long as you include berries, kiwis, overripe bananas or peeled carrots or any combination thereof.

 

Antidepressants - When Should I consider them?

   

Antidepressant MedicationsWhen Should I Consider Antidepressants? Depression Discussion at XLPharmacy Blog

There are many different types and variations of antidepressant medications available for depression, but they all work towards the same goal: treating the problem of depression. A person who is classified as needing antidepressant medications may exhibit one or more of the following symptoms of depression: insomnia, restlessness, chronic pain, severe loss or increase of appetite, an inability to pay attention, sadness, and thoughts of suicide or death.

Using antidepressant medications may be a difficult decision. Patients who feel that they may have a problem with depression should first consult with their local physician to make sure that antidepressant medications are the best solution for their individual case. The doctor will assess the present symptoms and will prescribe an antidepressant medication based on the patient's individual set of symptoms and medical history. The dosage may be adjusted in the early stages of treatment until the correct dosage level has been found. Many patients do not have noticeable results until after six weeks as the drug is not at full effect until then. The benefits found while using antidepressant medications may be tremendous. Sixty percent of patients that try antidepressant medications are able to experience a general better physical and mental state. Combined with a regular program of psychotherapy, depression may be effectively cured.

The most common antidepressant medications are broken down into five main groups: monoamine oxidase inhibitors (MAOIs), tricyclic antidepressants (TCAs), tetracyclic antidepressants (TeCAs) such as Mirtazapine, selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), and serotonin-norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors (SNRIs) such as Effexor. MAOIs are generally used when other antidepressant medications have failed to be effective and must be taken cautiously as there are serious interaction issues with various foods. The most popular MAOI is Emsam, which is used as a transdermal patch. Although TCAs such as Amitriptyline are the oldest grouping of antidepressant medications, they are not used very often in present times due to better options being available and possible interaction issues. On the other hand, SSRIs are the most popular current available antidepressant drugs. This grouping includes the well-known medications Celexa, Prozac, Zoloft, Escitalopram, Paxil, and Lexapro and are commonly used because they tend to have less side effects and are more effective than other groupings of medication.

Although antidepressant medications may be an effective treatment for many sufferers, caution should be taken as most users experience at least one of the following side effects: constipation, light-headed, nausea, sexual dysfunctions, insomnia, sleeping during the daytime, diarrhea, cottonmouth, headaches, weight gain, or nervous shakes. If a patient notices that these side effects are present, his or her local physician may advise that alternate antidepressant medications be used in the future.
 

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This Month's Healthy Recipe - Baked salmon with Southeast Asian marinade

Baked salmon with Southeast Asian marinade

Dietitian's tip:
Salmon works well on the grill. After you've wrapped the fish in aluminum foil, grill until firm and opaque throughout, about 10 minutes on each side. Serve on couscous with steamed green beans on the side.

Serves 2
Ingredients
1/2 cup pineapple juice
2 garlic cloves, minced
1 teaspoon low-sodium soy sauce
1/4 teaspoon ground ginger
2 salmon fillets, each 4 ounces
1/4 teaspoon sesame oil
Freshly ground black pepper, to taste
1 cup diced fresh fruit, such as pineapple, mango and papaya


Directions
In a small bowl, add the pineapple juice, garlic, soy sauce and ginger. Stir to mix evenly.

Arrange the salmon fillets in a small baking dish. Pour the pineapple juice mixture over the top. Put in the refrigerator and marinate for 1 hour. Turn the salmon periodically as needed.

Preheat the oven to 375 F. Lightly coat 2 squares of aluminum foil with cooking spray. Place the marinated salmon fillets on the aluminum foil. Drizzle each with 1/8 teaspoon sesame oil. Sprinkle with pepper and top each with 1/2 cup diced fruit.

Wrap the foil around the salmon, folding the edges down to seal. Bake until the fish is opaque throughout when tested with the tip of a knife, about 10 minutes on each side. Transfer the salmon to warmed individual plates and serve immediately.

Nutritional Analysis

(per serving)
Serving size: 1 fillet
Calories 310 Cholesterol 67 mg
Protein 23 g Sodium 174 mg
Carbohydrate 24 g Fiber 1 g
Total fat 13 g Potassium 591 mg
Saturated fat 3 g Calcium 37 mg
Monounsaturated fat 4 g  

 

Top Tips For Living Longer

As a nation, we're living longer and healthier lives because of improved medical care and better social conditions. As an individual, how long you live is often down to your genes. But there are things you can do to boost your chances of making your old age a healthy, happy and long one.

No matter what age you are now, here are a few tips that'll hopefully have you living to a grand old age.

Tip number one: be positive!

Are you a glass half-empty or a glass half-full kind of a person? The answer may literally be life and death. Researchers at the Mayo Clinic in Minnesota found that optimists decreased their risk of early death by 50 percent compared to pessimists.

Tony Broe is professor of geriatric medicine at the University of New South Wales Research Institute he says that "optimism correlates with self-esteem so I think succeeding in life leads to more optimism and probably a better outcome, but it's hard to know what's the chicken and what's the egg," he says.

So we don't know whether being optimistic makes you more successful, or being successful makes you optimistic.

Just in case — start smiling! Positive thinking lowers the stress hormone cortisol which reduces the effectiveness of your immune system. So, managing stress is also important to a long life. "Stress in young animals, in young children, leads to actual death of brain cells," says professor Broe. You can learn ways to chill out, meditation is a well-known one.

Try this for ten minutes every morning:

Sit comfortably, close your eyes and listen to your breathing.
With each breath out, repeat a calming word and empty your mind.
If that doesn't do it for you, how about a little tai chi? All those fit and elderly Chinese can't be wrong. Even just taking a deep breath can help. Whatever you choose, always look on the bright side of life.

Tip number two: keep active!

Exercising regularly keeps you fit and keeps your weight down.

Growing older is no excuse for growing lazy:

Margaret Dickson: I'm up at six o' clock and walk the dog for half-an-hour to three-quarters of an hour every morning.
Doug Thomas: I enjoy my golf, my fishing, my gardening.
Joan Edwards: I walk every day, I do aquarobics, I do the heart moves exercises and I found that I just feel so much better.

Just thirty minutes of moderate intensity exercise every day is ideal — especially as you age.

What's moderate? Well you don't need to hit the gym: a spot of gentle gardening and a good stroll with the dog are great exercise — and good for your stress levels too.

According to psychology professor Mary Luszcz from Flinders University in Adelaide, giving your brain a workout is also just as important as working out your body.

"Practice in different kinds of cognitive activity does seem to be beneficial to ageing well," she says.

Stimulate your brain with games that involve problem solving, like crosswords and cribbage.

Professor Broe says it's vital to have an interest in life: "I think the key brain mental activities or brain exercise as you get older are things that challenge your skills, things that interest you. It is the involvement in it using what we call your frontal lobes to plan and program and carry out what you do rather than just absorbing information in what we call the back half of the brain where knowledge sits."

For Jeff and Margaret, painting and quilting fit the bill because, like learning a new language or making music, they involve coordinating multiple regions of the brain. But you'd be surprised at what else is good for you — one is shopping. Yes, that's right — go ahead and shop 'til you drop, because retail therapy uses several cognitive functions. It might not be great for the bank balance, but it is good for your brain.

Tip number three: eat well, live well!

Another key to staying young is eating a well balanced diet. The so-called Mediterranean diet — pasta, fish and olive oil with plenty of fruit and veggies — has been associated with longevity in many studies.

That's because the Mediterranean diet is rich in anti-oxidants which mop up free radicals in the body which accelerate ageing. Good natural sources are berries, capsicums, spinach and surprisingly, red wine.

If you watched What's Good For You last year, you might remember that family doctor Philip Norrie has written several books on the health benefits of red wine.

"The thing that's unique about wine is not only has it got alcohol like other alcoholic beverages beer and spirits, but it's got the most potent antioxidants in nature — resveratrol, quercetin and epicacatin and they should put it on the NHS and fund it with Medicare," says Dr Norrie.

But if your glass of wine goes hand-in-hand with a cigarette — the cigarettes have got to go. We've all heard the stories about the person who smoked 60 a day all their life and lived to be 100, but the reality is that smoking kills 50 Australians every day. Your chance of heart attack increases by two to six times if you smoke. Your risk of stroke is increased by three times, and then there's cancer: "Smoking is a big killer and it's a big cause of disability, but you can give it up any time and there are marked health benefits from stopping smoking," says professor Broe.

Quit now and within a few years your chances of getting a heart attack will be the same as a non-smoker's.

Tip number four: stay connected

When we retire we have a lot more time on our hands to do the things we want to do and that includes having a good time with friends. Of course, most of us also have our families, but which group will actually help prolong our lives — friends or family?

"Our own research has shown that friends relative to family are actually more important to longevity — to how long you actually live," says Professor Luszcz.

Why friends beat family is less clear, but researchers say a strong friend can really prolong your life.

And it seems to work both ways — researchers at the University of Michigan found that old people who volunteer to help others reduce their chance of dying by 60 percent.

Families are still important, of course. In fact, another study at Adelaide's Flinders University showed family ties can stave off disability among the elderly.

So cherish your friends and family — they could be your life line.

Tip number five: get married

If you're a man and you want a long life — get married. Studies show it can add seven years to the male lifespan.

Why?

Because, traditionally it's women who care for the men.

Prof Luszcz says it's because "they're used to having, essentially, a woman take care of them and so that enhances the chances that they're going to be well fed, that they're going to be looked after, that they're going to have someone who they can confide in if they want to do that."

But what about women, is marriage good for them too?

"For women, they can gain a sense of accomplishment by doing these sorts of things, but they can also seek someone outside the marriage so the marriage per se is not the only source of benefit for women in terms of longevity," says Prof Luszcz.

In fact, single women live longer than married ones — all that running around after your husband isn't good for your health.

Fast facts

If you're a man, women really are good for your health. Research published in the American Journal of Human Biology shows that having a daughter increases a man's lifespan by 74 weeks. If you're a woman it doesn't matter if it's a girl or a boy — each child takes 95 weeks off your life.

 

5 Drinks That Help You Calm Down.

Stressful day? Don't reach for a candy bar. Try one of these soothing liquids instead.

5 Drinks That Can Help Calm You Down - milk
1. Drink a glass of milk. It contains tryptophan, which as it is metabolized is converted to mood-boosting serotonin. Plus, its calcium, magnesium and potassium content may help keep blood pressure down.

 


5 Drinks That Can Help Calm You Down - hot cocoa
2. Drink hot cocoa. Warm drinks raise your body temperature—a feeling we associate with comfort, so it triggers a similar response in our brains.

 


5 Drinks That Can Help Calm You Down - black tea
3. Order black tea instead of coffee. A study by University College London shows that drinking black tea four times a day for six weeks lowered the stress hormone cortisol after a stressful event.
 


4. Drink green tea—packed with theanine, which increases the brain’s output of relaxation-inducing alpha waves and reduces the output of tension-making beta waves.
 

 


5. Drink a glass of cold water, then go for a walk outside. The water gets your blood moving and the air invigorates by stimulating the endorphins that de-stress you.


 

The Reality of Married Lovemaking

The Reality of Married Lovemaking
When writer Miriam Arond and her husband, psychiatrist Samuel L. Pauker, M.D., surveyed hundreds of newlywed couples across the nation, they discovered that 85 percent had made love before tying the knot, yet the frequency and quality of unmarried sex had little to do with the reality of married lovemaking. Nearly half said that after marriage, they didn't have sex as often as they'd like; 20 percent of new wives reported low sexual desire. For a fourth of the wives, sex meant painful intercourse or elusive orgasms, while 1 in 10 husbands experienced premature ejaculation, and 1 in 20 had erection problems.

What ever happened to athletic, swinging-from-the-chandeliers, "did-the-earth-move-for-you-too?" prenuptial lovemaking? The deep, mystical, Tantric communing of two spirits? Hours of Hollywood sex complete with mood music, flickering candlelight, and satin sheets?


Balancing a sense of intimacy and safety and security with a sense of unpredictability."The excitement of getting married gives couples a hit of dopamine -- a feel-good brain chemical that increases sex drive. For a few months after marriage, things may stay hot," says marriage and sex therapist Pat Love, Ed.D. "And while you still love each other and feel passionate about each other, the dopamine does settle down. You're back to real life. Your normal sex-drive set point kicks back in. Your expectations about married sex take over. It's the perfect time to do the delicious work of deepening your sexual bond."


"The challenge for couples is balancing a sense of intimacy and safety and security with a sense of unpredictability and creativity and eroticism," says Barry McCarthy, Ph.D., a psychology professor at American University in Washington, D.C. "When sexual intimacy is strong, making love plays a healthy 15 to 20 percent role in energizing your marriage. The paradox is that when sex is problematic, it plays an inordinately powerful, negative role in new marriages."

Understanding the real sexual issues that newlyweds face can help you keep sex fun and fulfilling -- now and for the rest of your lives. Experts say these hidden concerns can cool the hottest love life in the early days of marriage:

Mismatched sex drives. "When your sex drive returns to its normal level in the months after you get married, couples start to notice a frustrating desire discrepancy," Dr. Love says. "It's perfectly normal. You've just got to work it out."
The Reality of Married Lovemaking
Testosterone, the hormone of desire, fuels sex drive in men and women. But, Dr. Love says, relatively low levels of natural testosterone mean that two-thirds of all women don't walk around thinking about sex all the time. "For these women -- and I'm one of them -- you don't feel like having sex until you're already having it," she says. "That's perfectly normal. It just means you have to approach sex a little differently. You have to make time for touching, time for sex. You can't rely on being aroused to get things started. You have to start with relaxed touching and kissing to raise your arousal level."


Clashing sex-pectations. On the last night of a romantic two-week honeymoon, Priscilla and Greg Hunt bumped up against a radical difference in expectations and desire. "We had been making love three times a day on our honeymoon," Priscilla recalls. "It was wonderful, but we were about to go back to real life. To work and school and doing the dishes and responsibilities. I had to say, it's time to talk about moderation." Says Greg, "Sexuality was a real issue. We were both learning about it in our college courses, but experiencing it firsthand was strikingly different. My testosterone levels were extremely high. We were not evenly matched for libido. We had to work hard to communicate. Sexuality is a very sensitive issue -- you have all sorts of feelings and insecurities wrapped up in it."

Their solution? A fluid, flexible compromise: "There were times he wanted sex when we didn't have it and times I didn't want sex but we did. Thankfully, there were more times when we both wanted to make love. There's been a natural ebb and flow. It's something we still have to talk about," Priscilla says. "This is the reality for every couple: You're wired differently. If you have enough sexual experiences together that are positive for both of you, you'll be able to work out the differences."

This is an issue for many couples who've enjoyed a lusty sexual intimacy before marriage and/or during the honeymoon but who settle into different rhythms during day-to-day married life. The solution? Talk it out so that you don't feel rejected, frustrated, or bored.

Say Hello to Pleasure!
First Base, Revisited Don't wait for all that sexy dopamine to wear off. Using the heat, passion, and "let's jump back into bed now" sexual urgency of your first months together to explore and expand your repertoire of touch. "The first two years of marriage are critical for building a sexual style that includes shared pleasure and deeper intimacy. Aim for that. Otherwise, sex problems can become the focus of your relationship," Dr. McCarthy notes.

The sexual prescription? First, go back to first, second, and third base -- touching for physical pleasure, not necessarily orgasm or intercourse. And get past old-fashioned man/woman sex roles that stand in the way of an emotionally close and erotic sex life. "Men are often socialized to value performance more than intimacy or pleasuring," says Dr. McCarthy. "Women are taught to value relating and to see eroticism as the realm of wild, crazy women -- not wives.
The Reality of Married Lovemaking
"Not all pleasurable touching can or should lead to intercourse," he notes. "When a couple becomes comfortable touching inside and outside the bedroom, they're building a closer, more solid sensual and sexual bond that will make them feel happier, closer, and even sexier now -- and help protect against sexual problems in the future."

Emphasize pleasure, not just the big O. "Exploration and touch without the expectation of intercourse or orgasm helps couples get to know each other's bodies and needs -- you learn what kinds of touch are pleasurable as a giver and as a recipient," Dr. McCarthy says. Pleasure and affection keep you close even when you don't want sex.

Nurture emotional intimacy too. Feeling understood, supported, and valued will make you both feel closer and therefore more receptive to physical closeness.


Plan ahead. Sex-drive discrepancy? Busy schedule? Put s-e-x on the calendar. It's a fact of life: Most of us married someone who wants sex more often or less often than we do. If you wait to feel turned on before you have sex, you'll miss out on lots of great moments together. Let touching turn you on rather than expecting to feel aroused first. This may seem totally unnecessary during the hot-and-heavy exchanges of the Passion stage, but experts say it's the best way to ensure you'll still be enjoying great sex when your life is complicated by kids, a house, stress, reduced sex drive, and times of conflict.

Low sex drive? Consider saying yes anyway. "People freak out when I say this," Dr. Love confides. "But if you make time for love and romance and try to say yes when your partner wants to make love -- provided you're not dealing with a compulsive or sex-addicted spouse -- you will have a better sex life. Let your partner's drive get you both into bed, or wherever you'll make love, so that you can be touched and turned on. Why get into the habit of not doing it?"

Think of life as foreplay. "I found out early on that relational issues that seem to have nothing to do with the act of sex itself make a huge difference to my wife and to her interest in intimacy," Greg Hunt says. "I learned to pay attention to things I wasn't naturally good at. If I'm ignoring her and also not paying attention to things like chores around the house, she's not going to feel cozy and intimate at bedtime."

Don't use sex as a bargaining chip. Angry? Say something -- don't grunt or "hmph" and roll over. Withholding lovemaking when you're upset turns this deep, vulnerable connection into a nuclear weapon for power struggles. Adding layers of resentment to your feelings about physical intimacy is a surefire way to make sure neither of you will be in the mood.

Have realistic expectations. And in particular, dial back on multi-orgasmic, transcendental expectations. Even for the most happily married couples, more than 10 percent of sexual encounters aren't even pleasurable for one or both spouses, Dr. McCarthy says. An off night -- maybe the sex is hurried, you're tired or distracted, or simply uncomfortable -- doesn't mean you've got a big problem. It's life. Don't expect perfect sex every time -- or wait for the perfect moment to pounce on your mate. Just connect!

Make it eye-to-eye, soul-to-soul. You'll feel more vulnerable -- but couples report they also feel sexier, more attractive, more in-the-moment, and closer when they look into each other's eyes during sex.

Never underestimate the power of a quickie. You won't always have all the time in the world for making love -- and maybe you don't already. Don't overlook fast sex. It keeps the two of you in the intimacy loop, so you don't jeopardize the compassion, happiness, romance, and understanding that sexual closeness can bring.
 

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